I can’t begin to describe my life. From the time I was a small child I knew of GOD. I remember looking at the stars when I was 8 and thinking that God was in those heavens. I always had knowledge that he loved me. I was saved at the age of 17 and my heart was set on going to Bible College and serving the Lord. I loved the Bible College I attended. I enjoyed the great Christian fellowship for the first time in my life. I came from a precious church but to be on campus where everyone was Christian to me was like a little bit of heaven. I loved the sense of family that gave me. The lessons I have learned since that time may spare you a lot of grief.
I deal with folks every day who hurt deeply and have disrupted lives because of others who abandon them. People I thought would never leave me have abandoned me many times in life. I thought a few would always race with me and yet I found myself left alone to race toward Jesus.
The main lesson I have learned is not to put too much stock in other people. Desire much demand little. Overall people do what matters to them and they will not always keep their word. Some will promise not to bolt and yet will if you upset them. Some will never give you the time of day to explain or allow you to be forgiven. Some will stop speaking to you after long months of fellowship and never tell you why. Others will leave you for something that comes along that is better in their eyes. We live in a fallen world where pride and selfishness has affected a lot of Christians and unfortunately these types of things happen. It would be nice to tell you that it won’t happen quite a bit in life. It would be my pleasure to tell you that people will have character to talk straight to you and allow you to make mistakes and forgive you. I can’t say that either. I have learned that true friends in this life are few. That true folks who follow God’s heart and respect the other members of the body are rare. Thank GOD if you have one or two in your life. Seek to be that kind of friend.
Ultimately you have to stay the course and not let their rejection take you along with it. Thank God for the lessons learned. People who are emotionally healthy will talk to you and let you know what is going on and if they are going to leave your story. They will do what is right. People like that are rare and they have a clear understanding of who GOD is and our eternal role in the temporal realm. It doesn’t occur to me not to talk things out or to just throw people away. All misunderstandings in the body should be worked out even if the parties part. A lot of walking wounded out there are not capable or sure how to handle this. To be honest 8 years ago I couldn’t have either. I was too wounded to take any kind of rejection. Rejection has been a steady theme in my life and I have learned to love through to the other side. I have learned the hard way, by being rejected, not to let my life tank because of it. Believe me it used to collapse severely.
There are also people in the body who do not respect or care about others and the name Christian doesn’t mean they are immune to the frailties of the human race. Some are too busy to think about you. So if you are hurt or abandoned I am not saying to just brush it off. I can’t do that myself. I do get hurt, what I am saying is let your hope be in the only right place to put your confidence.
Jesus will never leave you or forsake you. On him you can rely. When this happens to you it’s easier to handle if you have proper perspective. It heals faster and cuts less. Others will disappoint you for various reasons. Hanging your happiness on folks who do not want to be a part of your story will lead you to much heartache. Keep your eyes ahead, press toward the mark.
In my heart I see it this way. I am to be a friend and let GOD work out the details. I think loving and serving those who write us off is more about our character than theirs anyway. Isn’t it easy to love the lovable? I’m not saying go the extra mile I am saying go the last mile. Let the fruit of the Spirit lead you and run your race well. You have nothing to lose by being good to folks who aren’t good to you. The bottom line is there are people out there who throw people away. There are people who will misunderstand you and who can’t see your heart or intentions. They filter through their own brokenness and we cannot stop faulty thinking. I have been thrown away every way imaginable and it hurts. These are people who are precious and dear folks that God loves dearly and wants to heal. They struggle at good relationships or who really don’t know what it is to be kind and respectful. It’s not my job to understand or let it drive me batty. My heart for you is that you understand this too and that you keep marching forth seeking God’s heart.
It’s my clear calling to love, lead, serve and have compassion. That way I can make a difference for the kingdom. Not everyone you come across is assigned to you or your story.
So love anyway, serve anyway and remember it’s not about you or how you feel but all about doing the next right thing for good and for GOD.
I do not have the gift of goodbye so I have to lay a lot of this in God’s hands.
…. Let not your good be evil spoken of…
King James Version (KJV)
9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.
11 Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.