Dear Christian who is hurting,
“He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.” (Psalm 147:3) “He has sent me to bind up the broken hearted.” (Isaiah 61:1)
The word heal in Hebrew means to heal, to sew together, or mend. Imagine if you will GOD healing me piece by piece even mending together what has been torn apart. That was like salve to my weary and broken heart that my GOD would put me back together in His way in His time.
Broken hearted in Hebrew in this case means to break into pieces, crush, maime, crippled, shattered, wrecked, rupture, to be broken, rend violently. Jesus repeated this verse in Luke as part of his mission coming to this earth. To heal the broken hearted and set the captives free. I was a captive to emotional stuff. No one held me physically captive it was all spiritual bondage. I remember when I lifted my eyes after the long nights of pain and blame and realized the chains were truly gone and I was totally free. I remember feeling as if my soul had wings because once I was blind but now I see. I have sung What a Friend We have in Jesus hundreds of times just because I now KNOW he indeed is my Friend.
Bind is the Hebrew word which means to tie, bind about like a headband or turban, bind on, restrain, bandage. What comfort that you are GOD’s child and He is waiting in the wings for you to embrace the healing he will provide and has demonstrated in first sending Jesus to die for us but, also in giving us a means to have an intimate relationship with him. Not only did GOD heal but he also bandaged my wounds as they healed. How loving and how restful that is to me. I can fall into his loving arms in prayer and as the dear and precious Father I have never had, let Him do that for me.
Wound comes from the Hebrew word which had idol as a root but also a pain or wound even a sorrow wound. I identify with making my pain and idol. I was so fearful to freely trust GOD with everything. I had spiritual white knuckles that if I let go of control it might hurt me how ironic. I remember when I first started studying the Hebrew and Greek and came across this it was all very hard to swallow. Now I love knowing what God is really saying. I am amazed at the lengths He goes to in order to have a relationship with us and take care of our needs and desires. We can truly trust him. I never trusted anyone before except myself which just about destroyed me.
Imagine him knitting you back together from brokenness of unimaginable proportions and binding that healing into a masterpiece that he knew in Psalms was fearfully and wonderfully made. That is what GOD has done for me. I sought Godly counsel through my Pastors wife because on my own I was unable to clearly see or progress. I was becoming emotionally and spiritually crippled and ineffective. I sought the Lord in His Word and on my knees, and I learned how to listen instead of act or react to everything. I began to see life’s lessons in it all and see how GOD works behind the scenes always on my behalf for His glory. It was like the scales from my eyes fell and as I began to become whole I feel full and have an overflow that I can share with others.
Hearing you say that your heart is broken, that you feel damaged, burned out, and that even talking about it makes you feel depressed is where I have traveled. It hurts but also shows us we are in touch with something still being not healed. How you might feel right now is a place I am very familiar with. It is the exact way I felt. I was emotionally and spiritually wrecked and very unable to admit it. I must say this to you hoping you will take it to heart because it is far more important that you understand what I am going to say more than you ever look at me. As I said that is not at all what this is about.
Feeling the way I did without dealing with it and without healing hindered me in every way spiritually, physically, and emotionally. I did that exact same thing by just avoiding it all. I spent hours pouring my life into futility of doing stuff that just didn’t provide anything valuable to help me grow. I have paid a very high price neglecting my relationships horizontally with people and vertically with GOD.
Not healing kept me in bondage to my pain until I decide to address it. It foreshadowed my witness and effectiveness as a light to the lost and dying world and kept me stuck going through the motions of life without really living the wonderful life Christ intended. I am speaking the truth in love. I did exactly that very thing.
Dear One, I know GOD is with me and that saying this is from grace He has given me to boldly let you know as strongly and lovingly as I can. I continued pouring my life into pseudo surface relationships which did make me laugh and provided numbness from it all but did not provide growth that will help a person heal or be restored. I wasted part of my life I can’t get back. I found many people there whose motives were not for my good or God’s glory.
Words that real friends tried to share with me along this line were dismissed when I was going through the same thing when I first was divorced and when I began to deal with my life and who I was. I was so far from healthy and whole. I would feel ungrateful to GOD if I didn’t share this with you for all that He has done for me. I am still in total awe of His grace and mercy.
I won’t continue belabor this but Dear One, but you seem to be where I was and I pray you seek out God with all your heart as well as fellowship in the Lord who will stand by you in this time, seek the LORD in His Word for what is already in place to help you heal, and cry out to GOD to find Him faithful to love you through this pain you are suffering. Above all one of the biggest mistakes I made was to try to do it in my own strength but I learned how to live in Christ as my life. That is the only way to really be healed and have lasting peace.
I am tried on every front here in Dallas with great trials but I am at peace knowing my rock, my anchor of the soul, my good Shepherd, redeemer, friend, Father, is ever with me. He is fighting for me and I can keep the great faith and peace that He provides. It’s not one bit me but in and through HIM, my all in all. I pray you continue in love as the Bible says and that you find healing in HIM. This is said from a heart that breaks for you but rejoices knowing our GOD will love you to the point your life will once again flow from His fountain if you let Him.
God bless you all who read this.
I can’t begin to describe my life. From the time I was a small child I knew of GOD. I remember looking at the stars when I was 8 and thinking that God was in those heavens. I always had knowledge that he loved me. I was saved at the age of 17 and my heart was set on going to Bible College and serving the Lord. I loved the Bible College I attended. I enjoyed the great Christian fellowship for the first time in my life. I came from a precious church but to be on campus where everyone was Christian to me was like a little bit of heaven. I loved the sense of family that gave me. The lessons I have learned since that time may spare you a lot of grief.
I deal with folks every day who hurt deeply and have disrupted lives because of others who abandon them. People I thought would never leave me have abandoned me many times in life. I thought a few would always race with me and yet I found myself left alone to race toward Jesus.
The main lesson I have learned is not to put too much stock in other people. Desire much demand little. Overall people do what matters to them and they will not always keep their word. Some will promise not to bolt and yet will if you upset them. Some will never give you the time of day to explain or allow you to be forgiven. Some will stop speaking to you after long months of fellowship and never tell you why. Others will leave you for something that comes along that is better in their eyes. We live in a fallen world where pride and selfishness has affected a lot of Christians and unfortunately these types of things happen. It would be nice to tell you that it won’t happen quite a bit in life. It would be my pleasure to tell you that people will have character to talk straight to you and allow you to make mistakes and forgive you. I can’t say that either. I have learned that true friends in this life are few. That true folks who follow God’s heart and respect the other members of the body are rare. Thank GOD if you have one or two in your life. Seek to be that kind of friend.
Ultimately you have to stay the course and not let their rejection take you along with it. Thank God for the lessons learned. People who are emotionally healthy will talk to you and let you know what is going on and if they are going to leave your story. They will do what is right. People like that are rare and they have a clear understanding of who GOD is and our eternal role in the temporal realm. It doesn’t occur to me not to talk things out or to just throw people away. All misunderstandings in the body should be worked out even if the parties part. A lot of walking wounded out there are not capable or sure how to handle this. To be honest 8 years ago I couldn’t have either. I was too wounded to take any kind of rejection. Rejection has been a steady theme in my life and I have learned to love through to the other side. I have learned the hard way, by being rejected, not to let my life tank because of it. Believe me it used to collapse severely.
There are also people in the body who do not respect or care about others and the name Christian doesn’t mean they are immune to the frailties of the human race. Some are too busy to think about you. So if you are hurt or abandoned I am not saying to just brush it off. I can’t do that myself. I do get hurt, what I am saying is let your hope be in the only right place to put your confidence.
Jesus will never leave you or forsake you. On him you can rely. When this happens to you it’s easier to handle if you have proper perspective. It heals faster and cuts less. Others will disappoint you for various reasons. Hanging your happiness on folks who do not want to be a part of your story will lead you to much heartache. Keep your eyes ahead, press toward the mark.
In my heart I see it this way. I am to be a friend and let GOD work out the details. I think loving and serving those who write us off is more about our character than theirs anyway. Isn’t it easy to love the lovable? I’m not saying go the extra mile I am saying go the last mile. Let the fruit of the Spirit lead you and run your race well. You have nothing to lose by being good to folks who aren’t good to you. The bottom line is there are people out there who throw people away. There are people who will misunderstand you and who can’t see your heart or intentions. They filter through their own brokenness and we cannot stop faulty thinking. I have been thrown away every way imaginable and it hurts. These are people who are precious and dear folks that God loves dearly and wants to heal. They struggle at good relationships or who really don’t know what it is to be kind and respectful. It’s not my job to understand or let it drive me batty. My heart for you is that you understand this too and that you keep marching forth seeking God’s heart.
It’s my clear calling to love, lead, serve and have compassion. That way I can make a difference for the kingdom. Not everyone you come across is assigned to you or your story.
So love anyway, serve anyway and remember it’s not about you or how you feel but all about doing the next right thing for good and for GOD.
I do not have the gift of goodbye so I have to lay a lot of this in God’s hands.
…. Let not your good be evil spoken of…
King James Version (KJV)
9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.
11 Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.