The million dollar question ~ WHY on earth would you let people you had a horrible relationship with in the past rob you of a great relationship now?

The difference between head knowledge and heart knowledge is

 FREEDOM!!! Sweet glorious stand in the rain and wash me clean FREEDOM!!!

THIS IS HOW IT FEELS TO BE FREE! 

Head knowledge keeps us in our heads where we can war with the flesh and all our damage and by fear justify everything even victimization. Head knowledge that never makes it to the heart is useless. It will never get you where you are destined to be because without heart there’s no honey. They didn’t have enough heart to go into the promised land. It was right before their eyes. What is right before your eyes that you are going to let pass you by because you see giants in the land?

Miracles and changed lives happen in the heart where the Spirit draws and leads.  I know I AM ONE. WOW! what changes in my life this year. What heartache and disappointment but what PEACE! The treasures we lay up in heaven and eternal perspective happen in the heart. The head is where the trappings of the world and our damage lodge until we kick them out by forgiving and being free to love. THE whole thing can be summed up in one word.

CHOICE

UGH NOT THAT WORD! you don’t know what I have done or been through!!!

Let me say I probably know more than you imagine and if you can imagine it I can say I have probably experienced it at my own hands or the hands of others.  We all come from a story that isn’t “Leave it to Beaver” or “Andy Griffith”

FOR ME that distance from my head to my heart seemed like miles much of my life. I can’t tell you the sleepless hours and loneliness I felt.   I can’t tell you the ways I tried to build a bridge from one to the other. Life was so stuck in a never ending conversation in my head that went something like this.

Why couldn’t it be different? Why did the people who were supposed to love me so broken? Why did I get stuck in the situation I was in life? Why couldn’t I have normal parents? Why was it so hard to love me? Why am I always hurt. WHY WHY WHY on and on

Why was the beginning of every sentence and the end was always the same.? Oh I beat why to death. It frustrated me at times and sank my life at others.  How was the twin to why. How could this happen again to me? How could they not love me? How could they not see me? How could people neglect a child? How could my brother drown because my Dad let him? That doubt and fear was the wrecking ball causing all of the why’s and how’s that kept me defeated. I was my own worst enemy!

I could get a good feeling for a bit but the problem with that is this. You can’t feel your way though life. Feelings are fickle and tricky.  They ride in on emotions that launch from our damage and lies told to us that we have leaned on. They enjoy playing like children in the conversation in the head that keeps us down and unproductive.

Feelings always have to follow foundational things that do not flee. TRUTH brings FREEDOM and feelings always have to follow. Truth is always first. You will follow what you believe. Believe TRUTH.

The truth sets you free because it always leads instead of follows feelings.  Again the cure is CHOICE. It shouldn’t surprise us that the same thing that brought us to CHRIST ….. CHOICE……  is the same thing that keeps us healthy in Him. ……CHOICE. …..

What are the choices?

The first is to let go. Yeah this is where you want to scream and hit me.  But I know by experience that this works. Simply let go of what ever is stopping you and keeping you down. What ever self defeats your purpose, passion and proceeding in life.  We make letting go so hard but it’s simple. Jesus didn’t die for you to stay broken. His kingdom doesn’t do a half baked saving job. HE saves and restores, cooperate with his plan. Your’s isn’t working. I know mine sure didn’t. My plan kicked my life all over the map. 

You always have the choice to hang on and continue spinning your wheels in the rut you have dug or that has been dug by damaging people for you. You can stay in the bad thinking and mire that keeps you bound and blocks love.    Or you can CHOOSE to break free by making a decision to break free. Choose to stop letting the people who have hurt you in the past affect your future. The million dollar question…. drum roll…. .

WHY on earth would you let people you had a horrible dysfunctional relationship with in the past rob you of a great loving relationship now?

Who are they to do this to you???? Why do they have power over you??? The answer is because that is what you have learned to do. You have learned to live as they have taught you to live. The power you give them is the reason for a lot of hurt and damage in your life.

YOU can now CHOOSE to live differently.  You can relearn and be restored. If you can’t choose this then God has perpetrated the biggest lie on the entire universe.  Hang it up turn off the lights and close the door. REALLY? HECK NO! Get a grip and a clue. They have hurt you and caused you great baggage but you can throw it away and choose forgiveness for you. FORgive them FOR you. Let them off your hook with all of their crazy damaging definitions of who you are or who you are supposed to be and be WHO YOU ARE meant to be. Stop playing the tapes in your head! GOD put you here for much more than to be held back by people who do not give it one thought to hurt you.

Don’t abandon yourself.

This may be the difference between having wasted life and a GREAT life.

Show up in your own life and start writing a new story. One of hope and freedom and forgiveness.  Please contact me if you want to know more about this. My heart is for you to be free and I can tell you how freedom happened for me.

Does it get any better than this?

Ezekiel 36:26
A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh.

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